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FairShare Home: a mental load app for couples who split the work
Make invisible household work visible, then split it without a Sunday night fight.
FairShare Home is a mental load app for couples who want the planning, remembering, and arranging counted alongside the dishes. You both list the recurring work, agree who owns each item, and see the split before it turns into a fight.
Waitlist Not built yet Updated 5 September 2026
What problem does FairShare Home solve?
Chore apps count the dishes. They do not count knowing that the dishwasher salt ran out, deciding whose turn it is, and putting it on a list before anyone notices. That planning work has no start time and no finish, and it never appears on a rota, so the person carrying it sounds like they are complaining about nothing. It surfaces in specific moments. One of you books the dentist, remembers who is allergic to what at the birthday party, notices the shoes are too small, and keeps a running model of the week in their head. The other one helps whenever asked and cannot see why being asked is the problem. Neither of you is lying about your own experience. You are describing two different jobs with the same word, and the argument runs on Sunday evening because that is when the week ahead becomes visible.
Mental load quiz
Rate thirty household tasks as yours, your partner's, or shared to see the split by category.
Free to use. No account. Nothing you type here is stored.
What would FairShare Home do?
FairShare Home would start with a list rather than a chart. You each go through the same set of recurring household jobs and say who notices it, who decides how it gets done, and who does it. Those three parts are separate, and separating them is most of the value. The app then shows the split by category: food, money, health, school, pets, repairs, family and social, and the admin that belongs nowhere. Where the two of you answered differently, it keeps both answers on screen instead of averaging them away, because that gap is the conversation. You can hand a job over with the noticing and deciding attached, then set a review a month later to see whether the handover held. Nothing is scored and nobody gets a leaderboard.
How would it work?
- 1Answer the same thirty task questions separately, marking who notices, who decides, and who does each one.
- 2Compare the two sets of answers, including the jobs you each thought the other one owned.
- 3Read the split by category rather than by count, so a heavy job is not one tick.
- 4Hand over a whole job, noticing included, and set a date to check that it stuck.
Who is it for?
- Couples where one keeps the calendar in their head and the other keeps asking what to do.
- New parents finding out how much of a household is remembering rather than doing.
- Couples in counselling who want a written list to talk from instead of a memory.
How do you run your own mental load quiz at the kitchen table?
Do this on paper, separately, before you talk. Each of you takes a sheet and writes down every recurring job in the house for the next month. Push past the obvious ones. Include booking appointments, tracking what is running out, remembering birthdays, managing the relationship with the school, keeping the recycling schedule straight, filing insurance, planning holidays, and knowing which child is off dairy this month. Next to each job write three letters. N for who notices it needs doing, D for who decides how and when, and X for who physically does it. Use both sets of initials where it is genuinely shared. This is the whole trick. The argument is usually about N and D while both of you are busy counting X. Now swap sheets and read without talking. You are looking for two things: jobs that appear on only one sheet, and jobs where you disagree about who does them. Both beat the totals as a starting point. A job the other person never listed is invisible by definition, and that is not evidence of bad faith. Pick a time that is not late at night and not the minute either of you walks in. Agree in advance that the first round is for reading the lists out, not for defending. Then transfer exactly one job, completely: the noticing, the deciding, and the doing. A partial handover, where one of you still has to remember to ask, is not a handover, and it is why this conversation repeats. Put a date one month out in a shared calendar and check that single job. If it held, move a second one. Two jobs moved and kept beats a list of twelve that resets in a fortnight.
What do people use today?
| Option | Good at | The gap |
|---|---|---|
| A shared chore app or wall chart | Clear on repeating tasks, reminders, and who took the bins out last. Cheap and quick to set up. | Records the doing only, so the noticing and the deciding stay wherever they already sit. |
| A card deck for dividing household responsibilities | Each card is a whole responsibility, planning included, and dealing them out forces a real conversation. | The deck is one session at a table. Nothing holds what you agreed or checks back in a month. |
| A shared calendar and a to-do list | Free, already on both phones, and reliable for anything with a fixed time and place. | Entries are added by whoever is already tracking things, which is exactly the work in dispute. |
| Couples counselling | Deals with the resentment underneath the chore list, which no app can do. | Costs by the session and works from memory, while the week you are arguing about happens elsewhere. |
What would it cost?
Free
$0
- The thirty task quiz and your split
- One saved list for two people
Couple
$5/mo
- Everything in Free
- Handovers with a review date
- Category history over time
- Both of you editing the same list
Session export
$9 once
- A written summary of your split
- The answers you disagreed on, side by side
- A PDF you can take to a counsellor
Prices are proposed. Founding members lock in the lowest price if we build FairShare Home.
Questions people ask
What is a mental load app for couples?
A mental load app for couples records the planning, remembering, and arranging that keeps a household running, alongside the physical chores, and shows how that work divides. The point is one shared list you can both look at instead of two private accounts of who does more.
Does FairShare Home take a side?
No. The quiz records what each of you says and shows where the answers differ. Where you disagree, both answers stay on screen. Nobody is given a score and there is no winner at the end.
Is this just a chore chart?
Chores are in it, but every job is split into who notices it, who decides how it is done, and who does it. A chore chart only records that last part, which is why it rarely settles the argument.
What if only one of us wants to use it?
One person can fill in the list alone and still gain something, because writing the invisible jobs down makes them discussable. The comparison needs both sets of answers, and a list used to win a point tends to backfire.
Can we use it if we do not live together?
Yes. Co-parents across two homes have the same trouble with school forms, medical appointments, and kit that lives at one address. The categories hold, and the list can carry jobs for a household you no longer share.
Is anything shared with anyone else?
No. Your list is visible to the two people on it. The session export is a file you generate and hand over yourself, so a counsellor reads it only if you send it.
How long does the quiz take?
Ten minutes each, done separately. Answering together defeats the point, because the first person to speak sets the answer and the disagreement you came for never shows up.
When will FairShare Home launch?
No date exists. Building FairShare Home depends on how many couples join this waitlist and say the paid plan would be worth it. The quiz stays free regardless, and joining commits you to nothing.
Where does this stand?
FairShare Home is a proposal, not a product. This page collects demand from search and answer engines. Askwright builds it only if enough people join the waitlist and say they would pay. Read how this works.